Much like individual work, couples therapy involves identifying and understanding the defenses that have been set up over the years in response to painful experiences. These defenses can become intensified in the context of a love relationship and present substantial barriers to trust and intimacy. As a safe and trusting environment is established in the therapeutic setting it becomes possible for each partner to learn about what triggers the defensive responses of the other and ways to bring a sense of safety into the relationship so that defenses can be bridged. I will help each partner learn how to communicate with the other in a way in which the other can “hear” what could not previously be taken in. This process can bring deep and lasting changes in each individual as each learns how to cope with the feelings of fear, anger, or loss.
The feelings of love that brought you together in the beginning may feel lost or obscured by a violation of trust, substance abuse, new parenthood or simply a feeling that you are drifting apart. You may be feeling that it is too late to save your relationship. Whether you are looking for a way to reestablish your love and commitment to one another or you are trying to cope with the feelings of ending a relationship, couples therapy can help you find healthier ways to negotiate your way through this time.